I am glad you've slowly persisted in having the hard talks. You're being true to yourself, and insisting your partner know who you are, so he isn't "in love with" some version of you that isn't actually you! Who wants that??
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37