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Old 02-01-2014, 02:22 AM
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Greetings Leo,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Mmmm. Kraken brand rum. I'll try it.

Sounds like you're getting things figured out pretty well just from what you've read so far, but don't hesitate to field any questions you may have, and we'll try to answer. I'm usually pretty good about following the intro board so post a question here and I'll be sure to answer (to the best of my knowledge).

I'm thinking you know of our blog/life story board, and I recommend posting there when you get to where you're ready to share your story. As for worrying more about the "relationship-on-the-side" than the "sex-on-the-side," that's not a major issue, it can go either way. Actually it's more common (in the surveys I've heard of) for women to be more worried about the extra relationship and less about the extra sex; men seem to tend to be more likely to have issues with the extra sex but not so much the extra relationship. [shrug] Is what it is; the point is you just want to figure out how to work through your insecurities, whatever they are.

It would probably be wise to go slowly about this opening-up thing in your relationship. You are still feeling gun shy and need some time to work out what you are dealing with in your own mind. When your last poly experience left a stinger in your heart it's no surprise that you'd be struggling with the idea now.

I hope that Polyamory.com will continue to be a helpful resource for you.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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