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Old 01-30-2014, 09:48 AM
Eponine Eponine is offline
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Originally Posted by Nadya View Post
I have tried to get to the roots of my feelings. Why is it that I do not want to have kids? When I try to make some sense to that feeling using logic as my tool, I end up with some pretty disturbing thought patterns. So it might be best to not even try to understand the *why* and just accept the emotions as they are. Anyway, that kind of approach makes me feel better
I think it's people who want kids who should ask themselves why, because having kids is a huge decision that needs a good reason. You don't need a reason for not wanting kids, because having no kids is the default state for everyone, and you're just keeping it. Think about it, isn't it strange that childfree people always face the question "why don't you want kids?" but people who want/have kids are rarely asked why?
Heteroromantic asexual female, sex-positive, childfree, relationship anarchist.
Married to G, and in a partially non-romantic, completely non-sexual and long-distance triad with A and L.
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