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Old 01-30-2014, 02:20 AM
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I have listened and given my support each time he has talked to me about a potential. But the first time I even bring it up, he treats me like I'm less than him. If this is how it's going to be, I'm not doing this. Either it goes both ways or it doesn't go either. And if he can't handle that, I'll help him pack his bags, because I'm not going to put up with being disrespected and mistreated because he can't even try to face his jealousy the way I did. This is not how poly works, dammit.
Hell, yeah, sistah! It is so very refreshing to read this! I love to see a woman stand up for herself and not tolerate any bullshit. Gosh, we see far too many women here putting up with all kinds of crap just because they're in a poly situation and don't know whether they can establish a boundary or not. Good for you. Any guy who holds onto a double standard and disrespects and slut-shames you for wanting the same things he wants should be out on his ass on the curb, with the locks changed!
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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