My ex wanted a child to solidify us as a couple. I indulged him and 6 years later we had a planned second child.
When i met N he was nearly 30 and never planned on marrying or having kids. We married 2 daya after our first anniversary and we have 2 daughters ( both unplanned). We love them all and im glad for our happy accidents. I joke around that the only way to get a man in his family to marry you is to get knocked up lol.
Both my ex and N have had a vasectomy so neither will be having additional children. i dont plan on having more kids either.
done with poly, the end.