Greetings Audball (and summertimesadness80!),
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Having read W's intro thread
I know that he is not a bad guy per se, but let's say that he made some choices that were somewhat ill-advised. Perhaps now he realizes that, and is trying to untie himself from M. Which is a good thing.
In addition to a search (and/or tag search) on "pregnancy," I'd also do a search (and/or tag search) on "affair" ... on "emotional affair" if you prefer, but I bet many "affair threads" will contain similar perspective as will "emotional affair threads."
Additional sites/threads/books/boards to consider:
You might find thoughts and insights in the above list that help you wrap your mind around polyamory, even if you don't agree with all that you read in them and still don't "get" poly per se. Polyamory is a largely personal thing, and isn't a fit for everyone. But exposing yourself to what poly people have to say can help you to level the playing field with all of the monogamous conditioning that's out there in mainstream society.
Having said that, I recommend for you and W to put poly on the back burner for awhile and concentrate on your soon-to-be-born son. You can read and talk about poly a little here and there and that's fine, just don't overwhelm yourself. I'll try to answer any questions you may have for me if I can, and I know many other members will do so as well.
Hang in there and keep us posted,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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