Originally Posted by Emm
What do you mean by "find out about each other"? To me that sounds as if they have no knowledge of the others' existence until a special occasion comes up, but that doesn't make sense so I think I've misunderstood.
Well, I guess that is sort of the gist of my question.
What I have gleaned is it is good to let someone I date know that I see other people. I have a better understanding now that I could discuss with my current partners what I am OK with them sharing about me to others and what I am not OK with. Then it is up to them to manage their other relationships as they see fit.
Upon reflection that seems to be the only rational way to proceed. I suppose if certain relationships blossom as we all hope then other discussions could happen. IE time sharing, special events, etc.