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It looks like there are a range of opinions about whether you should bother any further with this guy (and his wife). I can't tell if he's acting out of artifice or lack of experience. In any case you might find it helpful to do searches and tag searches here for the following: unicorn, secondary, hot bi babe, couple privilege. In addition I'd read from the following two links:
After that research, I think you'll be in a better position to decide if and how you want to proceed with this man, and you'll be better equipped as well for future situations that might involve one or more of the above factors.
Technically the situation has all the basic hallmarks of a unicorn situation, but it might be worth studying it further and asking this man and his wife some heavy/pointed questions before making a judgment call about it. Like I said, could just be inexperience on their part.
Good luck and I hope you'll find polyamory a positive, enjoyable experience for you.
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