II, sometimes the toughest thing, is hearing the truth.. you have heard and are actioning them. Thats a great step.
Its tough to be two different uses. And it isn't fair to yourself. Maybe try to balance and be.. one of equal value
.. either way its for you to figure out. I am not very good at being two people. So... either people accept me, or don't. I am the same person with the same values in both places. Servers me well