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Old 01-16-2014, 10:20 PM
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Greetings wonderwoman,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I have heard of a number of MFM situations and I am in a poly-fi hetero one myself; you can read more in my blog thread if you're interested. We've never done threesome sex though and I think a hetero V with threesome sex would be unusual.

If you really want to put some feelers out there then here are some links and suggestions.

You can also google "polyamory" with the name of your State, country, or major city and see that way if there's some local poly groups near you.

"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, Polyamorous Percolations
Even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.

Some links for dealing with jealousy:

Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, Etc.
How do you achieve compersion?

The Theory of Jealousy Management
The Practice of Jealousy Management

Jealousy and the Poly Family
Kathy Labriola: Unmasking the Green-Eyed Monster
Brené Brown: the Power of Vulnerability

Balancing dual relationships is a matter of time, scheduling, trial, and error. Every polycule is unique and has to figure out what works for, and fulfills the needs of, those in it. This takes patience as it doesn't happen overnight.

As far as going out in public is concerned, it depends on if you are "out to the world." The Vee I'm in is mostly closeted and we don't do PDA's as a trio out in public. When we go to a restaurant we just say "table for three" and let the staff assume one or more of us is just a friend.

Hope that answers some of your questions.
Kevin T., "official greeter"


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