Originally Posted by JaneQSmythe
That one confuses me too...I do NOT develop "feelings" for people easily (it's happened twice in my life - once with MrS, and again with Dude) but still considered myself poly even when I was with MrS (and various FWBs
). (To be perfectly honest, however, I can definitely experience "sexual attraction" for people that I don't have "feelings" for - which is not universal.)
Why is it confusing, though?
They just don't identify as poly and use the fact that they don't love often/easily as the justification.
What if 'feelings' includes 'sexual attraction'?
So that if you don't develop sexual nor emotional attraction to many people, you self identify as mono, and if you do then you are poly.