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Old 01-15-2014, 10:36 PM
FarAwayLover FarAwayLover is offline
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Question

Even if you wanted to avoid pronouns, it would be enormously helpful if you used something unique, like initials, or DH, or whatever, to refer to each person. And then explain how the relationship fits together.

Is the "they" your husband plus someone that he cheated on you with?

Does not wanting you as a secondary mean you're not in a sexual relationship with your husband currently? Or are they considering you a tertiary?

I'll admit to being new at all this, but it would seem like you're _in_ a polyship with them.

FAL

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M - Me female, 59 - _trying_ to figure out if I'm poly
B - 56 - my husband for over 34 years
JP - 58 - my high school boyfriend, newly appeared in the picture after 38 years; very long distance; haven't actually seen him
A - 65? - JP's wife of over 30 years, who's not cool with things
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