Well - as you are discovering, when things are new it's easy for it to become almost all consuming. I think we all have experienced that. Think of learning anything new that you might have a lot of enthusiasm for.
When we hit those points now we recognize it and call "time out". We've learned that we don't want to let it consume us - it simply isn't worth it and actually can spoil it !
So we kind of back off for a while, deal with what we currently have in front of us - or even eliminate some of it (with apologies if needed) and just try to focus on each other more. Get some of that quiet, comfortable normalacy you speak of back in our life.
Maybe you can do this too ?