London, that is not how it went down at all. FWIW, with my former romantic partner, I asked him to commit to only having one LDR, me. I was completely supportive of him having as many local partners as he liked. The reason I asked him to commit to only one relationship that involved significant travel was that he barely had the time/funds to pursue ours as it was. He did not want to make this commitment to me though, and in the end I told him I wouldn't be asking him for it anymore. We never made an agreement of any kind about this. I NEVER felt I had any right to restrict him in any way, I just ASKED. Those are two different things.
Female, married just about forever to Scout. My boyfriends are E. and C. Both are married, and C also has another lover, J.