Yes, I do often feel that it's too good to be true. A and I chatted about this some last night and she understood where I was coming from. She feels somewhat guilty for making things so complicated for J but understands the benefit of guilty pleasures for herself. She feels like she deserves it. She was also able to communicate some of my concern for J's happiness to him.
Ha. I should change the title of this blog to "Too good to be true". It does seem to be the theme.
I would like still more perspectives from other hinge people on how they divide their time and affections.