Originally Posted by london
Dude, I've never heard you say that anything other than the type of model you have is not polyamory because it's just people having endless strings of seperate relationships or whatever. I'm not saying that people shouldn't practice whatever relationship style suits them, you just don't get to remove someone's perfectly acceptable poly label because they don't do the same as you.
Imagine telling everyone in a closed triad or quad that they had to use the term monogamish because they aren't open to new relationships at all times like proper poly folk. It would be ridiculous. Regardless of my beliefs on closed relationships, a healthy triad or quad involves the people in them maintaining more than one loving relationship. That's polyamory.
I'm merely saying that you can't eliminate what is "really" poly, anymore than the OP was dismissing the "chain" type poly. I'm saying that all are legit, though I've often heard poly people state that my form is controlling and not "really" poly, simply because I like all my partners to be involved to some extent. I don't like having my time, and my partner's, divided, is all. Don't have enough time for that.