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Old 01-09-2014, 04:11 AM
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I'm eighteen, for reference. I actually have a very high libido, as far as playing with myself goes. I masturbate almost every day, and have for the last few years. And I like intimacy with a partner such as hugging and kissing-- I'm very open to physical interaction.
I'm also young, I'm in my 20's and I thought I am not able to pleasure myself until I am dating a close friend online that I have a found connection with. We're both far away, but as I get to know her...she's a romantic type like myself. We're pretty much open to discuss about most things.

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I don't think I have an issue with trust, per se. I grew up well adjusted with a nice family. My parents never talked about sex, so it was a bit of an ethereal concept until I started exploring my own body. The reason I think I prefer to have a long term partner before I consider sex is because I'm incredibly romantic. I loved fairy tales, having a destined soul mate, and was told to wait for the right person before having sex, so the idea of trusting someone heart and soul before trusting them with my body has become important.
I can relate. My folks raised me to be a good member of society and I feel like I am, but I refuse to live their religious views as well as live their conformist 9-5 lifestyle. I feel like sex has meaning and it's more than just pleasure. So I too want to get to know a girl first and see if I have similar views, experiences, and interests as her. In terms of trust I have good faith in a person first. I keep an open mind and I have a laid-back kind of personality, so if I sense I'm in a toxic relationship I immediately remove myself from the relationship.

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I consider sex as a whole to be comprised of a lot of different parts that can all be thought of as sex. I don't claim to define it for anyone else but, to me, sex would be direct contact with another person's genitals, be it with my own genitals or other parts of my body, which I have yet to experience. Things like making out, breast play, touching above the waist are all fine by me.
For me, anything that involves a penis penetrating the panty area (vagina and anus) is what I considered sex. Oral sex, making out, and fondling the body/private parts is just sexual gestures, but not an act of sex.

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I wouldn't limit my dating to people with low sex drives or who are asexual. I think, once I start engaging in sex, it'd be something I'd take part in with enthusiasm and eagerness, considering my masturbation habits. I like learning about sex in any aspect, even things I probably wouldn't try myself, just because I think it's interesting. I suppose as far as play with other people, I'd be open to anything that didn't involve direct genital contact, which like I said is how I define sex. I probably draw the line at seeing them entirely naked, depending on how committed and involved I am with that person.
Hmm, I feel that I'm a highly sexual person, but as I haven't had sex...I sometimes have doubts and think that I'm probably not. I like sex and I expect the person I'm with to like sex as well, but on a healthy level. I also discovered that I'm into certain kinks and fetishes as well, but it wouldn't really bother me much if the person I'm with isn't kinky or have certain sexual fetishes.

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In short, I'm very sex positive and open to a lot of things. My desire to keep my virginity is a combination of romantic ideals and an apprehension about sharing something as personal as my body with another person. Thanks for the questions, they made me think a bit.
It's nice to hear that there are still young people out there who see sex as special and it should be exclusive to special people only. I'm very disappointed that young people or people within my peer group these days think that the emotional can be separated from sex when that's false.

Last edited by CuriouslyPoly; 01-09-2014 at 04:18 AM.
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