Originally Posted by bookbug
Doesn't sound like the two of them really have a clue.
That much seems clear enough.
In order for a romantic association to work, certainly when it is a poly arrangement, everyone involved needs to either be GREAT at identifying their personal emotional baggage and then dealing with it or they need to be VIGILANT in their quest to be GREAT at it. This whole thing where people just keep relating to each other the way they always have and assume it's going to keep working (even though it never has before) is for the birds.