Originally Posted by nycindie
What kind of dynamic is there between his wife and him? Are they more like very close, best friends who are fine with the other doing whatever (or whoever) they want?
Well... They both have Asperger's and so do their 2 sons. They both need a lot of space. His wife R is more Aspie than Ginger. She needs her routines. They take a walk every morning and read a book out loud every evening; they call it "stories" altho it's usually non fiction.
Otherwise, they do household errands and chores together. They love each other but never say it. R has an extremely low sex drive and they only have sex 3 or 4 times a year. Ginger of course, has a high sex drive and I am sure that is partly why they are poly. R doesn't date others, never has.
A few years ago, when both their sons were in college, Ginger wanted to travel cross country with R, which had been their plan at one point. But she no longer wanted to. So, after some heated discussions, off he went on his own in his VW Eurovan. Finding women to date and bed along the way. All R cared about was that there was plenty of firewood cut to heat the house.
Oh, and there is a big difference between "unattached" and "detached," I think.
Yeah, I feel like he is asking me to be detached from what he does with or feels for Buddhist.
Gah, sometimes I hate men. Damn them and their muscles and cocks, and beards and testosterone, and hairy cuddly chests and arms.
Sometimes I just hate people in general. And hate life as well.
This will pass....
OOOMMM... (said sarcastically)