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Also helpful might be the following links:
Jealousy, Envy, Insecurity, Etc.
How do you achieve compersion?
The Theory of Jealousy Management
The Practice of Jealousy Management
Jealousy and the Poly Family
Kathy Labriola: Unmasking the Green-Eyed Monster
Brené Brown: the Power of Vulnerability
The feelings of insecurity you described are often closely related with jealousy itself, so I think you'll find the above links applicable to all of the difficulties you're experiencing.
You may also find journaling helpful in the way of analyzing what you're feeling. There's a Life stories and blogs board
you can get into for that. And you can do tag searches for "jealousy" and "insecurity."
Hopefully the good folks here at Polyamory.com will be able to lend you the help that you need. Let us know as further thoughts and questions come to your mind.
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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