Originally Posted by GalaGirl
Right now I hear "Don't try to make me laugh when I am mad."
"Don't try to make me laugh when I am mad. (what not to do). Say ____ instead to me. (what to do.)"
Could be easier on both if you told him both examples of behavior TO do and behavior NOT do.
It is a process. You will get there. Hang in there.
That is good advice and I might just try that. At least he respected my feelings and the rule on lets stay our of each other's fights, which is a good start. Since he is the newcomer to the relationship and DH and I have been married for 12 years and are both set in our ways of dealing with each other, we felt it very important to set up that rule. The fact that he backed off on that is a very good start. And this was the first time that this had come up. I guess we will have to make up more rules as we go along and situations like this come up.