I apologized for saying I'd divorce my wife for Beth a week before their wedding. Beth told him that I had said this, which I'm not happy with, but we're all in a place where we are reacting to each other, saying hurtful things. We need to slow down, talk, negotiate etc...
Right now I feel I can offer Beth two trajectories:
1) We move towards a path of honesty and openness where she eventually tells Mark the whole truth. We start to open up to a few trusted friends and family (my Dad know everything and he's supportive. Good dude!) and if trust can be rebuilt, we can work towards a longer commitment.
2) We keep our secret, and I move towards finding another partner that can fulfill my needs in an open and honest way.