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Old 12-31-2013, 01:29 AM
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I suggest you read poly books together and keep talking until your partner reaches a certain level of comfort with poly before you put yourself out there on OKC. I mean, why swould you even do that before he is ready? That would seem disrespectful to me, if I were him. It can (and should) take a lot more than a few convdrsations to open up a mono relationship. Go slowly, and with compassion and empathy or you might find yourself with more drama and pain than you ever thought you would experience in your relationship.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
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