Originally Posted by wildflowers
You seem to be thinking of maintaining a relationship with him but not acknowledging that you know there has been a lot of deception. Do you think this can work for you? It seems potentially explosive to me. Also, you would be adopting his habit of deception. How do you think you will feel if you have to hide this knowledge long term?
The thing is, Atlantis is deceptive herself, she admitted that. She aided Prof in deceiving his wife about how often they were getting together. She's been communicating with both Prof and Kip under an assumed identity, and doesn't plan to stop it. She listens and nods at people and doesn't express her own feelings.
That doesn't make you "bad," Atlantis, but it does not lead to fully mature, supportive, comforting and exciting relationships. It leads to a kind of drifting along the surface of life, being continually disappointed and depending on the next new and shiny to give you a distraction from the former wreckage.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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