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Old 12-27-2013, 06:06 AM
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Greetings Justiss,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Alas, your situation is "normal" enough. Reminds me of two particular links:

So, somebody called you a Unicorn Hunter? (this would apply to them, not you)
A Proposed Secondary's Bill of Rights (this would apply to you)

In addition, you can search (tag search better yet) on this site for "unicorn" (or "couple privelage") and find quite a few threads that attest to this foolish and/or unethical practice of "putting the couple first" and making of the "hot bi babe" an object or accessory. It's arguably the biggest thorn polyamory has in its side, an embarrassment to those who are trying to put polyamory into fair and equitable practice.

I would keep this particular couple of yours at arm's length until they've read the two articles linked to above, and had a good long talk with you that addresses both your emotional needs and your value and rank as a person. You certainly aren't obligated to just bend to their wishes.

I'm usually pretty good about keeping up on the intro board, so anything you post in this thread will for sure get a response by me. But you can post on other boards too, with any number of thoughts, questions, and concerns as appropriate, and probably get several or many responses. Have a look around and see which threads particularly interest you.

I hope you'll be able to work things out with this couple in a way that's fair and equitable to both them and you. Hopefully they'll realize the importance of that. They need to put themselves in your shoes, while realizing that sex alone isn't what you're all about.

With sympathetic regards,
Kevin T., "official greeter"


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