I am glad you were able to come out as non-monogamous to your husband. However, it's important to get him to understand you want romance as well as sex with other partners. And vetoes are tough. If you fall for someone and your h vetoes him (her?), what will you go through? What will the new person go through if they are also in love with you?
Best to get that all worked out. Does your h feel afraid you'd leave him for another if you were in love?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, poly, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, poly, 37