Re (from katniss93
"If I break up with him he'll be so heart broken he will move far away and I won't see him again except for legal reasons if it is his kid."
In which case the kid (if the boyfriend is his/her father) would probably grow up without the company of one of his/her biological parents. So -- "If you break up with me, I'll do that to your kid." Isn't that what it amounts to? Sounds to me like his threat/plan is to make visitation an impossibility for the OP.