GG I totally get what you are saying about "stepping on toes". You are not alone there my friend
About being best friends - this is a sore spot for me. I feel I can talk to Redpepper about anything and that is a part of being best friends I believe. I consider her my best friend. We do, however have some topics that we don't discuss about other things happening in her life. Much of this is related to my being "monogamous" and not being able to listen objectively to things that in a mono relationship would potentially make the world crumble LOL! So I don't truly feel like her best friend a lot of times. Our openess is lopsided. luckily she has others in her life better suited to handle some discussions
There's a poly benefit!