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Old 12-21-2013, 02:10 AM
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Originally Posted by WhatToDo View Post
At the end of the day I have to say that it is a relationship that isn't going anywhere.
Originally Posted by WhatHappened View Post
But the fact is, this is a relationship that isn't going anywhere.
Where is "anywhere"... and where is "here" in relation to that? Inherent in any statement about a relationship "not going anywhere" is the expectation that there is a goal which should be reached, and that where the relationship is right now is not enough. What expectation does is kill the present moment. And, in reality, the present is all we actually have! So, before discounting a relationship as not being enough, I would ask myself questions about what my relationship gives me right now. Do I feel heard? Do I feel valued? Do I feel respected? If things are good with how my relationships are now, why should I negate that by wishing they are different, ie., "going somewhere?" And why does some fantasy about the future hold more value to me than what is in my life right now?
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