Originally Posted by WhatToDo
As a "mono" married guy that fell for a "poly" married woman I have to say that I probably wouldn't do it again. I wouldn't trade the time I've had with my girlfriend for anything but its just so hard to form and maintain a relationship when dealing with such a limited schedule. Not all her fault as when the relationship started I was the one with the very limited schedule but now that mine has opened up hers has gotten to the point where I'm not sure it's even worth it. The whole scheduling thing that you have to deal with to be in a poly relationship may just not be for me.
My feelings exactly.
I never would have agreed to this had I not known him and felt the attraction between us to begin with. I'll even say I think he and his wife 'do poly' better than 99% of what I've seen online, as far as people having problems and issues. They have virtually no rules, no limitations.
But the fact is, this is a relationship that isn't going anywhere. When it comes to the big stuff in life, I'm on my own. Yeah, I enjoy his company, but I, too, have long since begun to wonder is it worth it.
So here's another mono saying I would never, ever date a poly person again.