Originally Posted by Azzy
Edit: Never mind. The Newbie just dumped the Secondary.
I feel like I ruined everything.
Repeat after me 'This is not about me.'
Don't take on what is not your problem.
Frankly, I suspect this is karma. Secondary was not forthcoming, didn't handle his business of being forthright about what he wanted and needed with either of you, and so disappointed everyone and likely cost him relationships.
That said, it is too bad. On the other hand, maybe he will learn from this. Or not.