Maybe attached isn't the right word. Open and trusting enough to share thoughts and feelings. Feeling connected enough to share.
I did some reading on attachment myself. I get what you are saying.
I feel that I can be too emotionally distant, not express caring enough through words.
Does that make sense?
Both of them have said getting things out of me is difficult. I am an INTJ personality through and through. I gather information and have a think about it. Then ask more questions.
Me: mid 40s female
Mr Dom: late 40s. 10 months
Prof: 50s. 3.5 years.