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Old 12-18-2013, 02:51 AM
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OP, he sounds like a true nut job, saying you should stay with him because he's spent a lot of money, that your husband is no good for you, that he'll sue for custody, and so on. Holy shit, you need to develop better judgment and common sense about who you let into your life! Why do you let yourself be such an easy push-over? I've never been able to convince anybody who tried breaking up with me that we should stay together. When most people want to end a relationship, it ends. You need to find your backbone! Just stop calling/texting/emailing him. Have a plan to let your husband and/or other people deal with him if he shows up uninvited. File for a restraining order to keep him away from you. Next relationship, use better judgment and make sure not to confuse affection and infatuation for love.
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