You see, I've heard monogamous people say they have several loving relationships but only one romantic relationship at a time. I hear poly people say that some people subscribe to a definition of polyamory that excludes the more casual or sexually focused relationships they have. I've heard asexual people say that the focus on sex in the definition of romantic invalidates their amorous relationships, which are very much romantic and/or could involve any or all of the things a traditional, heterosexual, monogamous couple share. Especially when you consider they barely have sex either!
That's why I prefer saying polyamory is a relationship style that permits multiple romantic relationships simultaneously with the consent and knowledge of all involved. People can decide for themselves if their relationships are what would be commonly referred to as a romantic union, and whether they construct their relationships in a way that permits more than one romantic relationship at a time.
Last edited by london; 12-17-2013 at 11:13 PM.