We used condoms, I told him flat out that I was planning to have a family with my husband.
The problem I'm having is how controlling he is being and I don't think that is healthy for my family whether he is the father or not. Do I have any obligation to be with him if it is his kid despite his need to be in control and tell me how my husband isn't good enough for a family?
Do I work it out with someone who tells me all he's done for me is wasted if I tell him when something's wrong. He gets so upset when I tell him about issues in our relationship that I'm too afraid to tell him how I feel.
And if I do break up with him and it is his kid should I let him be in the child's life regardless of the way he makes me feel in our relationship?