Worrying about my new girlfriend
My husband and I have had an open relationship for several years, and it's all been great, but I recently started to fall for someone else. I and my husband are fine with this, but the new woman seems hesitant.
A year or so ago, she was the secondary partner of a married man for a long time, and while she says she doesn't regret it because they really were in love, she doesn't think she can do it again, because being in love with someone she couldn't fully "have" was too hard. She says she feels that she is falling for me, and doesn't want to.
I don't quite know what to do about it. She says she wants to keep seeing me, and I don't want to let her go, but is it even possible for us to decide not to fall in love?