Sounds tough for the husband. I'm hoping you are being compassionate here?
He's facing three really big life changes and probably needs a lot of emotional compassion:
1) Finding a job; then keeping it
2) Moving in with you and renegotiating your living standards
3) Renegotiating your marriage agreement
On too of that he's trying to date again.
You have to struggle with your own sense of self and worth when finding a job; and again when you're dating, and again when you're trying to open up the marriage.
Have you considered slowing down? It seems fair to ask.