What we tell ppl
Generally we're out to almost everyone, and it gets easier every time you come out, but it was not always so. For a very long time we were aunts and uncle to our children, and only a few of our friends were in the know.
When we decided to out ourselves, most of our blood family had already figured out our status, only a handful rejected us, but we're not worried about them nore do we need their permission since we are retired.
I try to love my wives this way, unconditionally! Husbands love your wives, even as Christ loved the church, and gave himself up for her. Eph. 5:25