I told her I can't be a consolation prize, or her dirty little secret any more.
She understands and "knows [she] is doing the wrong thing." We both acknowledged that is because when she wants me back I'll be there.
There's so many aggravating things about this; but I have to let it go. She's got to make her own decisions.
Me: 41 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 19 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan - poly female - 4 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend
Ironically named Farmgirl - local interest