Tuesday I sent her an email advising that she really needed to tell Daley about her lifestyle. I didn't tell her what to do. I didn't tell her to take my word for it (she should ask someone close, confidential, and non-judgemental). But that if she truly cares about Daley, it's going to come out sooner or later and it's going to hurt him to the core. That's what set her off. She thought I was trying to push and/or control her.
We talked a little yesterday afternoon, but she had a family crisis. We talked again late last night, and she says she still wants to be with me, but that if it's a choice between me and Daley she wants to be with him because "she doesn't get to see him that much." (Which is bullshit. He spends more quality time with her than I do.)
I guess this is the end for now. That won't meet my needs. If she changes her mind, I'll be here.
It's been 25 years since I was in love like this. I had forgotten how much it hurts.
Me: 40 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 18 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan - poly female - 3 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend
Last edited by Nox; 12-13-2013 at 04:32 PM.