Never found myself associating with people who are drug addicts or associate with drug addicts. Never tried to begin a relationship with a "basket case."
Nor do I have a superhero or white knight complex where I try to save anyone.
Sorry not going to console or pat anyone on the back who behaves badly. The OP and her husband were looking for something from this woman and are trying to make themselves feel better by hiding behind the belief that they were trying to help/save this woman. No they were unicorn hunting. We reap what we sow.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.