I guess we are the people that care, and want to help where we can. she expressed she didn't want to do those things anymore, and that she needed something with more stability. people go through shit sometimes, weve been there, done that. sometimes people need guidance, and support. and we tried to provide that, but not in the parental, smothering way. I guess that makes us bad people for caring and wanting to help.
don't worry, the "hot mess" isn't a mess anymore, its non existent.
ill try anything once, twice if I like it.