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Old 12-11-2013, 06:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Natja View Post
So her boyfriend is a hard core drug user that she is willingly with and you wanted her your partner? It is clear she doesn't have good judgement so.....what does that say about you? Perhaps she is emotionally vulnerable and easily influenced, does this make her good relationship material for you?

It is good that you have decided to stop pursuing her but I don't really feel your anger is warranted. Instead you might want to look at your judgement and your expectations.

Being defensive won't help you grow as poly people btw.
I agree why in Hades would you want to bring someone who keeps company with someone like her boyfriend into your life. Everything said here screams hot mess.

Why the heck would you want to bring a person like that in your life? Maybe because those types of women (people) are easily manipulated.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 50/50 split of time between my two husbands.