There's a school of thought about the veto rule that attempts to turn my Trust theory back on itself. Basically, it says that if you have this amazing trust between you, then you should be able to trust that your partner will not misuse the veto power by ending your other relationships due to insecurity or jealousy. It's a good point. If veto powers were a requirement of poly relationships, that's how I would think and structure my relationships accordingly.
However, veto powers aren't a requirement at all. People who rely on veto power to make them comfortable enough to proceed with polyamory give me enough doubt about the trust in their relaionship(s) to make me skeptical about their ability to use their veto responsibly.
Last edited by london; 12-11-2013 at 04:09 PM.