We have young children and we don't have a veto. N isn't attracted to people with bad character, I don't have to worry about him pursuing a relationship with anyone who would be a danger to our family. J also doeant have a say who N dates just like he doesn't have a say who we date. We don't bring people home though so if I didn't like someone he was seeing it wouldn't affect.me or my kids because I don't have to socialize with them.
Sue, openly in a vee with Nate (polysexual, many fwb) and Sam (Mono)