Originally Posted by nycindie
Oh, I am not saying you should stay in a relationship with him if he is being dishonest about his involvement with you. I am saying that I don't see it as your place to tell him what to say to his girlfriend. There is a difference between standing by your own personal boundaries of what you will or will not tolerate... and micromanaging someone else's life.
Oh, I see what you're saying. I appreciate the explanation.
How would you recommend that I find out whether the Newbie really knows that the Secondary and I consider each other more than friends?
I certainly don't want to micromanage anyone's life, but I guess I may be doing it just because I have no clue how else to handle the situation
My big fear is that she currently doesn't understand the nature of my relationship with the Secondary, and that upon finding out, she will freak out and dump him. That would hurt all four of us.