Originally Posted by nycindie
I couldn't vote in your poll because my choice wasn't there. Basically, I don't think it is up to you and your Primary to dictate to your Secondary what kind of conversations he should be having with his other girlfriend. You manage your relationships and let him manage his. There seems to be a whole lot of control issues going on here.
I am sorry I did not include that option in the poll; it did not occur to me when I was first making this post. Thank you for taking the time to post a response.
My view of it is, if he is having a romantic relationship with me and not telling his girlfriend, isn't he cheating on her? That's the type of thing that people call an "emotional affair," isn't it?
I don't want to be involved in any behavior that I consider immoral. If I allow myself to be kept a secret this time, why not sleep with married men who are cheating on their wives as well?
Enough of those certainly seem to find me on a certain dating website popular in the poly community