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Old 12-10-2013, 11:56 PM
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Things don't always go like I want them to go. Sometimes I have to adapt and let things happen gradually. And- it's not always black or white.
So true. In the world of therapy, dealing with patients fears means helping them to face that which they fear, go through the emotions of fear and see that they survived.
In context of a poly dynamic; that means allowing them to feel the emotions while continuing to experience the things they are afraid of (like their partner having another love). But-they can't do that if every time they express their fears and insecurities, the metamour bails.

Not saying that anyone has to stay.
But worth considering the ramifications. Especially if you are considering leaving someone you really love.
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