Originally Posted by bagofhearts
My promising what? That my weekends will be for him only? And then I will let him down in the future when I find an additional person that I want to spend time on the weekends with?
This is a legit point. You can say "I'll always make time for you", and that's something you can, in fact, hold yourself to. But something about specific days may be much harder to keep. Like, what if you fall for someone who initially is free during the week, but then that person has to take a new job and is also only free on weekends, for example? Best not to commit in advance to specific things that may not be compatible with the basic needs (such as time together) of future relationships.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.