I forgot: What sort of work are you involved in? As far as R goes she sounds like a sweet and respectable person. I hope you guys will continue to get more opportunities to hang out and whatnot.
Ahem; upon reading my prior post I realized it seemed a bit overwhelming, all that work that's involved in starting up a poly scene or group. Honestly I don't know how much (little?) work is involved because I've never been ambitious enough to take on that sort of project myself. Who knows? Maybe if you get some little thing started it will pick up its own steam and you can just "ride the wave." But don't be surprised if the wave calls for a little drudgery!
Best wishes follow you as you continue on your way.